It sucked. it was very painful. I felt unwanted and useless.

But turns out this was noting compared to the pain of rejections when I tried to build a relationship with my daughter.

She lives in another country with her mum and I didn’t see her that often in her first couple of years.

She wasn’t used to me so she rejected spending time with me.

Now that was a whole new level of rejection.

When you experience this, getting 200 job rejections starts to feel like a walk in the park.

I was left wondering, why wouldn’t she want to spend time with me? I’m her father.

I realised that all those times I was showing up as the heartbroken father who needs that touch of affection from his child.

But that’s not what the reality was.

The truth was that I’m her father, the provider for her, she needs me.

When I started to gradually shift my energy to that frame, I started showing up to meet her with a brighter vibe.

I had a smile on my face, i looked good and walked with confidence.

That was attractive to her, now she’s coming around and agreeing to be close to me.

She started to kiss me and interact with me.

This was a fascinating and transformational shift for me and a great lesson too.

I realised the importance of showing up with a bright energy to whatever you’re trying to achieve.

So what can you learn from this as a job seeker?

Look at the real frame of your relationship with your potential employer.

If you’ve been showing up as a job seeker who’s in desperate need for a job

Think about this again, try to look at the value that you bring to the table.

Feel into the challenges or problems this company might have

and how hiring the right person can help them solve those problems.

Now you’re looking at the frame with a more objective view,

Both parties need each other.

When you show up to the job search with conviction that this is the truth, that will show.

What you feel they feel, because you’re dealing wit people, not just the ATS or the machine.

People are emotional creatures and they’ll respond to what you feel.

So what kind of energy are you going to show up with?

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